Yesterday I started reading the blog http://diaryofagujigirl.co.za/ it took me a few hours to complete reading all the posts. A lot of what she says makes me think "OMG I'm sure I know this person" here's my opinion about the blog.
1. I like it a lot. I think that as a Muslim Indian, Guji or not you can relate to a lot that's being spoken about.
2. We've all been strung along by someone. At times I wanted to kill Moe but we all have a Moe in our lives, in some shape or form. I suppose nothing is as it seems ... The question is what are you willing to do with the 'Moe' in your life?
3. Some of the stereotypes are whack; e.g. Aamina and Mariam getting lost in Alex. Indeed SA is dangerous for the most part but I believe beauty and humanity still exists (call me an idealist) and as my friend Aayesha Soni said "with such a great platform ... the writer should do more to combat stereotypes, instead of promoting them".
Also I hate how Aamina was so rude and judgmental about a half Malay coming to see Ayesha, and this is a problem with much of our Indian society. Shouldn't the fact that the person is a good Muslim and a good human being trump race?!
4. If you are a #GrammarNazi then this blog will drive you INSANE but overlook it.
5. What I love most is Aamina's journey to self-discovery. And this is what I will base this post on.
Due to my Honours Thesis on Marriage and the Pressures that come with it in Muslim Indian Communities in Joburg I think I may be thinking a little way too much about marriage.
I think we're all so obsessed with marriage or companionship that we fail to find ourselves first; to become and mold ourselves into full/complete human beings. Not only that but I also think we don't ever reach our full potential. I look at Aamina and I think to myself "Ya Allah I have wasted so much of my time agonising about some guy that may or may not be interested in me", time that I could have used wisely to accomplish something important, time that I will never get back.
I want to challenge myself and everyone out there, to go find ourselves, figure out our likes and dislikes, fulfil our dreams and live life to the full! Indeed marriage is half of our Imaan but Taqdeer and faith in Allah is Islam and that should trump all these silly pressures or thoughts regarding marriage. It will happen when it's meant to happen.
In no way am I saying close yourself to the idea or reject people because Allah will send your significant other on a silver platter as that won't happen. I am, however, saying that you need to be open minded especially since we're all getting older but don't preoccupy yourself with these thoughts at Every. Waking. Moment.
Yes, I sympathise with Aamina and as much as I can relate to her I also feel sorry for hey. Sorry that she hasn't experienced life for herself by herself. There really is no shame in being independent and doing your own stuff or doing things on your own, there is however, shame in letting life pass us by while we watch.
So here's to making our dreams a reality and living life to the full, within the boundaries of Islam of course, Aameen.
1. I like it a lot. I think that as a Muslim Indian, Guji or not you can relate to a lot that's being spoken about.
2. We've all been strung along by someone. At times I wanted to kill Moe but we all have a Moe in our lives, in some shape or form. I suppose nothing is as it seems ... The question is what are you willing to do with the 'Moe' in your life?
3. Some of the stereotypes are whack; e.g. Aamina and Mariam getting lost in Alex. Indeed SA is dangerous for the most part but I believe beauty and humanity still exists (call me an idealist) and as my friend Aayesha Soni said "with such a great platform ... the writer should do more to combat stereotypes, instead of promoting them".
Also I hate how Aamina was so rude and judgmental about a half Malay coming to see Ayesha, and this is a problem with much of our Indian society. Shouldn't the fact that the person is a good Muslim and a good human being trump race?!
4. If you are a #GrammarNazi then this blog will drive you INSANE but overlook it.
5. What I love most is Aamina's journey to self-discovery. And this is what I will base this post on.
Due to my Honours Thesis on Marriage and the Pressures that come with it in Muslim Indian Communities in Joburg I think I may be thinking a little way too much about marriage.
I think we're all so obsessed with marriage or companionship that we fail to find ourselves first; to become and mold ourselves into full/complete human beings. Not only that but I also think we don't ever reach our full potential. I look at Aamina and I think to myself "Ya Allah I have wasted so much of my time agonising about some guy that may or may not be interested in me", time that I could have used wisely to accomplish something important, time that I will never get back.
I want to challenge myself and everyone out there, to go find ourselves, figure out our likes and dislikes, fulfil our dreams and live life to the full! Indeed marriage is half of our Imaan but Taqdeer and faith in Allah is Islam and that should trump all these silly pressures or thoughts regarding marriage. It will happen when it's meant to happen.
In no way am I saying close yourself to the idea or reject people because Allah will send your significant other on a silver platter as that won't happen. I am, however, saying that you need to be open minded especially since we're all getting older but don't preoccupy yourself with these thoughts at Every. Waking. Moment.
Yes, I sympathise with Aamina and as much as I can relate to her I also feel sorry for hey. Sorry that she hasn't experienced life for herself by herself. There really is no shame in being independent and doing your own stuff or doing things on your own, there is however, shame in letting life pass us by while we watch.
So here's to making our dreams a reality and living life to the full, within the boundaries of Islam of course, Aameen.
May Allah always guide us, Insha'Allah Aameen.
xoxo :)
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